Letting go can be hard, it can be painful and can be deeply emotional. And often it is these feelings that make us want to hold on again. We might hold on by putting things off, by guiding from a fear based place, by controlling, navigating so it suits, so we do not need to feel the pain that sometimes comes with letting go. Yet, if we feel all these emotions, we suddenly recognise that letting go is freeing, it is flowing and it allows everything to move as energy needs. And after all, as we know, we are all simply energy. By holding on, by being fearful, by over protecting, over controlling, by focusing on the what 'if's' we stagnate and energy sits and gets frustrated. We must flow.
As I sit in a beautiful, exciting city, Montreal, about to meet with my daughter who is starting her first term at University out here, having had her first night in her residence last night, I contemplate what I need to let go of...
Letting go of her is a wee painful in the heart, it has to be said, but I know it is right... how... because she knows it is so right. And she has grabbed every opportunity to get herself here. With Covid restrictions prohibiting her from seeing Mcgill and getting here last year... now... she is ready. Whether she lasts 1 month, 1 year, 4 years... it doesn't matter... her journey... her journey... not mine or her parents .... but hers... has begun. I could find so many things to create some sort of conditioning, fear based, controlling element to the whole thing but it feels so wrong. So, I am not putting any attention on the what if's or the maybe's but fully on the what is... moment by moment, day by day and letting everything be. By letting go, a sense of acceptance steps in, a sense of fluidity and a deep knowing that whatever challenges arise, everything is as it is and is going to be more than ok. And letting go does not mean 'no longer', it means growth. Where there is love, there is always connection. Letting go, is simply allowing growth for freedom.
Some of the greatest words I have held close to my heart over the past 20 years as a parent, for which I am hugely grateful, are those of Kahlil Gibran, especially the idea we do not own our kids, we are simply holding space for them to grow, to learn, to shine and to fly... and my greatest wish is that they are all healthy, happy & whole.
"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of
Life's longing for itself. They come
through you but not from you, and
though they are with you, yet they
belong not to you. You may give them
your love, but not your thoughts. For
they have their own thoughts. You
may house their bodies but not their
souls, for their souls dwell in the house
of tomorrow, which you cannot visit,
not even in your dreams. You may
strive to be like them, but seek not to
make them like you. For life goes not
backward, nor tarries with yesterday.
With so much of life being governed by living in a world of can't... not possible (such as can't afford or too tied or too much work, etc...) .... Should, musts, If's.... it is time (and I truly believe the energy of the world and humanity is changing into something beautiful, something of opportunity and creativity and connection) to step into, "Yes, I/WE CAN..." Even if everything in our life seems to say we can't on paper and what we see as 'fact', actually the moment we step into CAN and POSSIBILITY... magic starts to happen and everything starts to move, open and exist like we never thought it could... not because our hearts had ever told us that but because we have been so deeply conditioned and controlled by fear, rules, division and regulations, that our heads have told us so.
Take a moment today to look at where you can let go to free up your energy and make time to write down what you want to see in your life and how that feels... feels good? Feel it more, see it, believe it... BE IT!
Love you all
Me x
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