So most of my life I have conformed as much as I have needed to in order to 'fit' in or 'people please' just like many of us have because we are so deeply conditioned to the do the 'right' thing and be 'good.' However, what I have come to realise over my journey of transformation and awareness is that fitting in, people pleasing and being what we have been told is 'good and right' is not living! Living is exploring our hearts desires, living is feeling, living is expressing our needs and wants, living is loving, living is being kind, living is relaxing without shame, living is resting without guilt, living is being. Living is exploring and experiencing life. It truly amazes me how we encourage our kids to follow the systems so methodically... go to school, get good grades, go to university, get a good degree, get a job, get a flat, get a mortgage etc etc.... what about saying... work hard, have purpose, do what you love and LIVE life. Everything we have been conditioned to do and to share with our off spring is not living, it is slowly dying in survival mode! It is stagnation, fear, control and sticky. Why do we have to get the perfect job at 23 when we come out of University? Why can we not earn and live, earn and live and see the world. Surely that is how we connect to people, to places... that is how we grow. We might not want to travel the world but we can still explore life from our home land by trying different jobs, meeting different people... seriously, we have become so boring! Great if you want to go down that road and it lifts your heart and you sing along day to day a happy song... that is truly amazing but if you do not then choosing different avenues must also be encouraged and if someone doesn't know - who cares... again as long as he/she has purpose and earns and communicates and rests and works and rests and plays and rests and works... then good on them! Lets celebrate those exploring opportunities!
Then we get to our 40s or so and we all decide we are old and sore... that is what we have been told will happen. Women will go through the Menopause and suffer - what we have been told again... so that is precisely what many do! How about we change the narrative. We are not old. Aging maybe because of numbers but how about we look at our ageing process as moving into another chapter... a chapter where we start to make changes so that we don't feel old or sore... might be we have to make some changes, some sacrifices, some additions... whatever it might be... we do not have to be old and sick! We can be a little bit older in age but healthy and vibrant ...enough people have showed us this is possible!
Rather than following the narrative that has been laid out for us and that we are now laying out for the next generation, let us pinch ourselves and wake up! Let us recognise that we are responsible for our life not other people... we are able and capable of doing great things... we might need to get out of our heads and into our Hearts and feel our bodies once more - that is a journey in itself - but when we do we are so very powerful... the noise and negativity and the put downs that those in control have embedded into our society become a lie, they become fiction and our reality becomes something quite different. Something we believed was only a fairytale.
Remember you are enough. Remember your worth.
Live your life with vitality and truth. If something does not feel right trust it.
Follow your heart.
Live by your hearts wisdom and let it use the intellect of the brain. NOT the other way around.
When you feel fearful, scattered, anxious... come into your body. The breath is your greatest healer for this. Use the breath to bring you back. Feel your body... the feelings are feedback... let them be there, let them pass on by... you may have to feel them first... but they will move... so run with it. Immerse yourself in the very moment you are in. Feel the centre of your body. Scan your awareness from the top of the head, down through the brow, through the throat, through the heart, through the solar plexus, through the navel, through the pubic bone and back up again. Continue until you feel a sense of calm. Feel your feet. Ground yourself through this centre core to the feet and through to Mother Earth with a beautiful light white cord.
From here expand from your heart.
Comments